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Mar. 22nd, 2004 | 02:37 am
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Okay.... I was surfing the net and looking at people's web pages when I came across the following:

What I look for in the opposite sex: personality.

Upon reading that I thought, yea, right!! Believe me hearing women say that what they look for in the opposite sex is personality and then not back it up makes me want to puke. I am not saying that it is a false statement, I am sure that most women really do look for personality in a partner, but I am saying that I don't buy it. I am living proof that women do not go for just personality. I am not saying that I am perfect, but I will say that I try to be thoughtful to whoever I am with at the time. I do not try to offend anyone, and I am generally a nice guy. But we all know the saying: Nice guys finish last" and I believe that is a true statement. We do finish last. We don't want to, but we do. I have spent many hours wishes that a girl would at least notice me, let alone show interest in me so I might ask her out, but it is never the case. so is personality really what women want?? I doubt it. I believe that while personality plays a huge role in the decision of relationships, I think there is more than just personality. Suppose I were a big, fat, ugly guy, similar to Fat Bastard on Austin powers, do you think a woman would actually come to me and say, "hey you nice guy you, would you like to go out?" Or even take the time to show the remote signs of interest?? Please. While it would appear to be the right thing to do, a woman, unless she is attracted to fat men who eat a lot and have a scottish accent would not go out with me. But on the flip side, I am a 6 foot buffed guy, who can prove that I can protect my gurl, the charming Pierce Bronson smile, and a personality that is so-so, then I believe I would have a little black book in my possession. But I don't and guess what, personality is not the thing women look for in the opposite sex!! It may be one of the qualities in consideration upon the first date, but prior to that, it is all physical. If he looks decent, and I am alone, I guess I'll go out with him. I mean, there are still many people, male and female, who still go out with someone because they are good looking, even if they have feces for brains and personality. the thought of, "I can change him/her" remains adamant in their minds.

Hmmm... this looks like a good topic for an editorial for the Ka Leo!! Time for a revision and edit!! Take care and more later!!

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shannon

From: hellokittygurly
Date: Mar. 22nd, 2004 10:12 am (UTC)
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hi can we be lj friends i like reading your journal

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 22nd, 2004 01:26 pm (UTC)
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sure!!! I would love to be friends, always looking for more readers!! I tend to write sporadically though, so be advised, but trust me what I write usually is something related to society. Take care and keep on reading!!

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jwacha

From: jwacha
Date: Mar. 22nd, 2004 12:40 pm (UTC)
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Well, I'd say that personality is important to me. I don't really have a 'type' of guy that I am usually attracted to, except maybe bald hehe. Remember that Randy guy, he was asian (with hair), and now I'm sort of interested in a white guy (without hair).
I guess you are right though, I've never been into anyone who looked like Fat Bastard...

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 22nd, 2004 01:29 pm (UTC)
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yea, I believe it is an important component, after the initial physical attraction is over. Sorry to hear about Randy, I hope this new dude does a better job with keeping up with you than he did. His loss. Ha ha. take care

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From: 1warrior
Date: Mar. 26th, 2004 10:09 pm (UTC)
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Well for me I like intellectual guys, but not intellectual snobs who brag of their acomplishments... Just thought provoking conversations. I also look for guys who can defend their point of view, know what they want out of life or have an idea, can stand up for themselves, artistic talented guys, funny guys, guys who like to read worthwhile books, guys who like animals, motivated guys, and guys who know how to have fun, the right things to say(witty), and good looks are a plus.

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 27th, 2004 03:15 am (UTC)
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Wow, those are a lot of fabulous quality to look for in a guy, and I hope you are successful, at least better than I, at finding a mate. I would agree about the intellectual snobs, they can become a pain, but someone who is willing to share his/her opinon iis definitely a plus!! I do wish you the best of luck in finding such male figure to complete and create happiness in your life. Though I do not know you, I still pray upon thee, happiness of a lifetime, even though your most challenging hours.

Take care!! And thank you for reading my journal =)

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From: 1warrior
Date: Mar. 27th, 2004 01:18 pm (UTC)
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lol, wow? alot of fabulous qualities? lol. Well I've picked a lot of apples, but most had worms. Lol, yeah, if you haven't found a loved one yet, I wish you also good luck. =) Ditto.

Mind if I add you?

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 27th, 2004 02:10 pm (UTC)
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Please do add me, and i wll do thee same. I am always happy to make new friends. I hope to see more of you in the future. I noticed that you are as ambiguous about your identity as I am, so hope to hear more from you.

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personality????

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From: michan808
Date: Mar. 27th, 2004 01:03 pm (UTC)
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I have dated a guy based on just personality in high school ... and if you remember in high school, its all about reputation. OK ... the fact that he went to St. Louis was a factor, but the was tall (6'3") and really fluffy (as an ex would describe chubby people). I think only vain people tend to go for looks, but it does have a slight impact on the relationship. I do have to admit that I have gone out with guys who were hotties, but bottoml ine is, their personality wasn't quite up to par. Oh, wait, I have dated guys with personality most recently, as well. I just think they're really fun cause no matter what you do, it could be just driving around this island, and I still would have the time of my life with him.

Hmmm ... what do I look for in a guy? A guy who has a mind of his own and not a mama's boy; who is open and honest; one who is caring and trustworthy, yet who is strong in their beliefs; someone who has personality that would click with mines; someone who has an intellectual mind, yet not a snob about it; someone who loves the outdoors; someone who knows how to have fun, but isn't a party animal/club whore, etc.; someone with a pure heart.

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