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Mar. 12th, 2004 | 09:21 pm
気持ち: contemplative contemplative
音楽: her email racing in my mind

Okay, looking for all bright minds out there on the issue of love, my weak spot. What the hell is love? Tangible or intangible? I mean, can two people who never have met fall in love? Can two people really fall in love at first sight? What is up with dating by email? Honestly, I hate hitting, or even the thought of hitting on women, and I sit here thinking about what the hell love is?? Why do I ask? Good question, I recently received an email from someone I have not met in person and she write about how much she loves me, yadda yadda yadda. She is not living in Hawaii, but I would assume she is thinking about it. So anyway, very heart moving and what not, but I am stuck wondering if I should open my heart and trust her, or if I should just leave it as is?? Looking for opinions on this one.

depends on how I feel? Hmm, good point, but currently, I am confused about the whole situation. Price you pay for having a good heart. Plus, I am so naive about it, and that is why I do not know if I should pounce on the opportunity, or if I should just let the bugger sit.

If you are a person, longing for love, and it comes righht p to your face and says, "here I am. I am not in your state, but I am here. All you have to do is take me now and you will have more or me later." do you grab it? This is what I want to know.

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jwacha

From: jwacha
Date: Mar. 13th, 2004 03:27 pm (UTC)
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Hmmm, that's tough to say. I'm not all that sure just what love is... Hollywood has a lot to say about it. Maybe you should go see some movies ;)
No, seriously, though, I don't really believe in love at first sight, I don't think it can last. It's better to get to know somebody first, just some low key kind of hanging out.
So how do you know the girl who sent the love note? Is she an internet friend, or a friend of a friend?

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 14th, 2004 03:23 am (UTC)
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she's an internet friend, and all of a sudden I get this email from her stating how much she loves me. Since we have not met, I cannot say what type of person she is, and for all I know she could be some psycho. I dont know what her intentions are, but one thing is certain, she is younger than I, so i don't now what to call it??? I am perplex and confused. What should I do? should I chance it and dive, or leave her to hang like a bee hive? I have seen her picture, as she has mailed mde a letter, but i don't know....

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jwacha

From: jwacha
Date: Mar. 14th, 2004 10:18 am (UTC)
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Well, how old is she? If she's a teenage girl you might want to subtract a couple of years from how old she says she is. It's really easy to misrepresent yourself on the internet.
And have you guys ever talked on the phone or anything? Where does she live?
Now there's a pile of questions for you to think about, but you should go with your gut and do what seems right to you.
In other news, Randy called yesterday and I didn't exactly turn him down but... well, I'm still thinking.

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 14th, 2004 12:06 pm (UTC)
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she's from the Philippines and she claims to be 20. Yes, I do know how easy it is to misrepresent oneself on the internet, but I have a picture of this so-called person. I do not know if it is her true self or not, but nonetheless it is a picture. Returning to other news, what happened with you and Randy???

Was it cold last night or what??? I froze all through the night!!

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jwacha

From: jwacha
Date: Mar. 15th, 2004 05:47 pm (UTC)
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Hmm, well, just be aware of the possibilities. Like mediocresau says there is usually a flip side, be careful with your emotions.
And, well, read about Randy in my so called post. I think that maybe he is playing games or is a loser or something. Arg, boys can be dumb, no offense.
I was cold last night especially (Sunday night), it was so windy I had to use my thick blanket!

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 15th, 2004 11:38 pm (UTC)
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Yeah, I don't think I wanna deal with immigration too!! I have been giving this issue tons and tons of thought, and seeing how I really do not know this girl, and have not met her, I really don't think Iwanna deal with it. I have been leaning more and more to letting her go, and telling her that I don't think it will work out. Sorry to hear abour Randy!! I know what you mean. At least you have someone nearby calling you. So far, I have only been lucky to have an email, hahaha. Oh how I dream of love, hee hee. Keep in touch!!

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jwacha

From: jwacha
Date: Mar. 17th, 2004 05:33 pm (UTC)
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Yeah, it sucks sometimes. But like they say, plenty of fish in the sea, right?
So, any big St Patrick's Day plans?

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St. P's day

hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 18th, 2004 12:41 am (UTC)
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Rest and prepare for class tomorrow. Yu are right about the fish, but I am still looking for my angel fish. Take care

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Sau

From: mediocresau
Date: Mar. 14th, 2004 01:04 pm (UTC)
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Dude, has it ever occurred to you that she might want you for an American green card? It's happened to many a people. I'm not trying to be a Devil's Advocate, I'm just saying...

Sorry dude, I'm just hesitant with internet relationships because there is ALWAYS a flipside involved.

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 14th, 2004 02:28 pm (UTC)
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Believe me the thought has occurred to me more than once, and that is the sole reason why I would like to end it. Then again, maybe she is been genuine?? It is soooo hard to say. That is why I made this post to see where it would go. I sent her an email telling her explicitly how I feel about all of this, and am waiting to see what her reply will be. Well, let you know as time goes on.

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greencard to go??

~*~AzN kOlOhE gUrL~*~

From: michan808
Date: Mar. 27th, 2004 01:19 pm (UTC)
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I have had my share of guys falling for me through the 'net. All in all, it wasn't so bad, but it all depends on who they are. I have had some who had fallen for me from another country, Australia, Korea, China (Xuangzhou), but I always kept those at a distance. My ex-fiancee is from California, transplanted, but it does has its pros and cons.

I've always been weary about LDRs since part of having a relationship is to get to know the person for who they really are, and how can do you it when you're thousands of miles away, unless she tends to fly here quite often. My ex-fiancee flew down about every 3 weeks to see me ... seemed like forever, but we managed. It can get really costly, but money shouldn't matter in the game of love (as he puts it).

Perhaps she is using you for a green card as the other posts have stated? Who really knows what her true intentions are? She can tell you blah, blah, blah, but bottom line is, how do you really know? Look at those old guys luring young girls to meet them? Meeting over the internet is extremely risky, especially when they're not from the same state, or in your case, country.

I think being friends would be a better bet until you're still sure.

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Re: greencard to go??

hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 27th, 2004 02:06 pm (UTC)
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Well, I have been doing some research on the net over the whole situation, and sure enough that is exactly what she is trying to do, but there is a reason.... her family situation is not the best and i am assumming that she wants to better her life and she has seen that the only way to do that is by leaving her country. Furthermore, like many filipinos she hears about how American men treat woman, so she opts for a better life. I simply told her I can not promise anything. If anything I will fly to meet her when I have the money, but I am not planning on marrying her or bringing her to othe States. If anything the cost to bring in someone from the Philippines in not and inexpensive one, leading to over $10,000!!!! I know I am not down with that type of financial obligation!! So, regardless off her intentions, money speaks louder than anything else.

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Re: greencard to go??

~*~AzN kOlOhE gUrL~*~

From: michan808
Date: Mar. 28th, 2004 12:40 am (UTC)
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But doesn't EVERYONE want a better life? I think that comes everyone, no matter what their situation is wherever they are, right? Besides, I do know first hand how one family wants to come to AMERICA just to have a better life. My ex's family was just like that. They were originally from another country and had a family member sponsor them into America. In order for other family members to come over, his mother insisted that all her sons marry their aunties just so they can come in. My ex and I thought that was so wrong, which he was always against from the start. I'm glad he didn't, but his eldest brother had no choice whatsoever.

Besides, if you marry a citizen from the Philippines, she'd have to go back there after she gets married and whose to say how long it'll take for her to come home to you. The government will make her go through a long process after her marriage to an American. It took my ex-coworker's wife almost 6 months before he could his wife again.

Best of luck to you.

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Re: greencard to go??

hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Mar. 28th, 2004 02:01 am (UTC)
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Well, I am pretty sure I will not marry this girl for the previous financial reasons. I do agree with you about wanting a better life, but I an share your feeling about marrying when onde does not have to. Anyway, look forward to hearing more from you. Take care

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