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Jun. 10th, 2005 | 09:24 pm
気持ち: lonely lonely
音楽: Wtihout a Paddle ~DVD~

Review and a question, all under the cut!! Yay!!


Greetings one greetings all, and welcome to the review you have been waiting for!!!

Yes, today, I saw Mr. And Mrs. Smith, starring none other than Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. As I stood in line, I had no particular idea what to expect. But I did sit through the two hours of the film to figure out what the deep secret behind the film was. As we all know, both characters take the role of a spy and both are working for competitive organizations. However, after being married for five, or six, years their marriage tends to have hit a really tough slump. Life no longer appears to be the blissful life it once was, and the couple begins to seek professional.

As with all secret agent agencies, there is always a mark for someone to die, but little did the couple know that eventually their companies would want them to destroy each other. During an assignment, both find out that they are in competition with each other and eventually end up trying to kill each other, but the question is, will they be able to destroy each other, or will 5 (or 6) years of commitment create hesitation in the stone cold killer hands?

Well, for starters, this film was too long. There were many scenes the director could have either shorten, or deleted altogether. But what I will say about this film is that you need to focus not on the action part of the film, but the theme, which is marriage. The film is ultimately about marriage and how many couples deal with marriage. While the film is set up in the form of an action film, there is much to say about how difficult a marriage is to maintain. Furthermore, the film also touches on the importance of being open and honest with each other in order for the marriage to survive. Perhaps what the film really wants to say is through deceit and deception relationships, in general, cannot survive. If you are planning to see this film, keep in mind the true theme of the movie because there is much more to it than two people fighting and trying to kill each other.



On a different note…. I have been spending too much time with a friend who I know likes me a lot. She has not bluntly said, “I like you.” But through her actions, I can tell that she has strong feeling for me. Scarwy. I mean, she’s cool and all, but just not my type. Really. So I guess today’s entry question is: Dloes appearance really matter when it comes to romantic relationships?? Why, or why not? I pose this question because while my friend has a heart of gold, I am totally not attracted to her in anyway. Geez, I feel so shallow, really. So, what do you think?

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jun. 12th, 2005 03:33 am (UTC)
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In this particular case, I would tend to believe you are right about that. And yes in this case, it does, especially for me!! Argh!!

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yamkaori

From: yamkaori
Date: Jun. 11th, 2005 12:46 pm (UTC)
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i don't think the appiarance is not important,for me.cuz my ex b/f was not good looking so at the first time,i thought seems like he is a stupid monkey...you know,he was a monkey,even not an ape!!so i didn't like him so much for a long time,but we were getting close and i was getting love him.then he became the most good looking guy in the world for me :DDD you know,there is Japanese maxim,"あばたもえくぼ".it means that when you are in love with someone,you will be blind for her,even if there are many defects of her.

btw,why is she not attractive for you?what do you think?what is the important thing when you love someone?sounds like it is not a heart!!:DDD

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jun. 12th, 2005 03:34 am (UTC)
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There are reasons why she is not attractive to me, and it goes between both appearance and personality. She is a dear friend and I am happy to have her as a friend, but I still worry. I now how she feels though she has not directly said it to me. She also knows how I feel as well... so...

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Kostas

From: kostasdb
Date: Jun. 11th, 2005 01:36 pm (UTC)
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I personally think that when you love, you fall in love with the mind, body and soul (which is a simple way of putting it). If you are not attracted physically to someone then well, its going to be like fitting a square peg into a round hole...one day you might be able to somehow fit it in there, but its will never be a "perfect" fit.

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jun. 12th, 2005 03:37 am (UTC)
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I totally love your analogy!! Geez, it makes it all so clear, seriously!! In my particular case, that is how it feels. It feels like i am trying to fit a square in a circle, but the thing is, I am not doing it on my own will. I mean, she is a great person, but there is also the lack on compatibility that also exists between us. Furthermore, I just am not attracted to her the way she is to me, and that is what is frustrating about it!!

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Minklet

From: enna99
Date: Jun. 11th, 2005 02:50 pm (UTC)
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People become more attractive as you get to know them on a romantic level. I didn't think my ex-bf was hot or even that good looking, but I was physically attracted to him anyway, once we started spending time together. It's hard to explain; I guess I'm saying, don't rule it out. Give it a chance, because the attraction may develop.

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jun. 12th, 2005 03:39 am (UTC)
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Oooooooo, you so make a good point about that. I have thought about that with her as well, but to be honest, I just can't see it happening, really. There is just sooooooooo much there that makes it all so difficult to do, hee hee. But, I do agree that once you start hanging out, it can happen, no doubt about that.

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From: 1warrior
Date: Jun. 11th, 2005 04:53 pm (UTC)
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It kinda sounds like you are leading her on. Let her know how you feel asap.

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jun. 12th, 2005 03:41 am (UTC)
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And that is what I fear the most!! She is my friend and I have made it perfectly clear to her on many occasions that I am not interested in her in anything more than friendship, but she subtlely persists, not directly, but indirectly, and that is why I continue to feel, "need space!!"

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From: 1warrior
Date: Jun. 12th, 2005 11:18 pm (UTC)
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Ok, I'm glad you realize that, cuz I was kinda feelin' mad at you for that. =P Well either you keep trying to subtly drop the hints that you're not interested, say you're gay or spend less time with her. When she wants to do something tell her you have something else planned. Or just tell her exactly what you've written about her. She will get hurt, but its a better hurt than the hurt it is to have a belief of being led on. Hmm.. I'm thinking that maybe you are too nice? You might have thought you made it clear to her, but get some advice from people who know both of you, and make sure that in their eyes you are making it clear.

Or having you seen Charlie sheen's show "Two and half men"? There's that one girl that comes over from next door and loves charlie no matter what. Perhaps shes like that? =P Sorry to diss your friend, just trying to help in a helpless feeling relationship.

Oh this may be really long post. But I've tried to love a friend whose had feelings for me... and it went bad. I felt like I was trying to fall in love with my brother or something!

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jun. 13th, 2005 01:37 pm (UTC)
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Totally understandable. i am going to takeyour advice. I am going to try to lay some distance between us for fear of maing her think that what i say is not what I mean. I have told her time and time again that we are just friends and nothing more, but through our joking she continues to joke about our relationship being more than what it is. I have to be careful on how to joke!! Like if I say, kiss my ass, she says, "bend over." If I say "Fuck me" she says, "really??" So, I have changed my comments to something she will not retaliate back with. Do you know how much that really sucks, really??? I mean, to be careful on what I say when I am relaxing?? Seriously!!

Anyway, no, I am not leading her, I am trying to avoid her if anything, Argh, but it is stress in itself, seriously. Thanks for your insight!!

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From: 1warrior
Date: Jun. 13th, 2005 10:53 pm (UTC)
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Yeah, I've had that happen before. Its more or less, you just can't be that close to that person anymore... It sucks.

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From: twizzlertwit
Date: Jun. 12th, 2005 04:35 am (UTC)
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Well I think there's a difference between just appearance in general mattering and being attracted to someone physically.

If anything romantic relationship wise is going to happen you have to be phsyically attracted to the person in some sense. Certainly personality plays a big role, but really you need to be both attracted to them physically and personality wise for it to really be anything. At least that's how I've always felt.

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jun. 13th, 2005 01:57 pm (UTC)
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You know, I agree. I thought appearence really didn't matter, but I have come to realized that is really does more than I want it to. I like my friend, but I know that because oof her appearence I can be nothing more to her than a friend. She jokes about having sex and that tends to be the running comment between us, but I refuse to have sex with her for fear it will ruin our friendship and it, for me, would be morally wrong, and that is something I can never live with myself with. So, I decided to space myself from her for a while. Tough, but to me she is just a friend and nothing more. Argh!!

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From: twizzlertwit
Date: Jun. 13th, 2005 11:20 pm (UTC)
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Well I think that's a wise decision on your part. Because it would be wrong and most likely would effect(affect?) your friendship with her. I've been in similar situations and really space seems to be the only thing that helps for the most part. Hopefully she'll get the hint. It is frustrating though eh?

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