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Jun. 29th, 2013 | 10:27 am

6/30 Edit:
After reading your responses, I am going to share my thoughts too. I wanted to wait because I didn't want my opinion to mesh with yours, but many of you (ok, all commenters, wrote pretty much what I thought too.


One of my friends posted this on FB and I am curious what others think. Please read the link and tell me what you think? Who do you side with: The gift giver or the new weds?


http://www.babble.com/babble-voices/he-said-she-said/controversial-wedding-gift-sparks-text-war-and-ends-friendships/

Sensei's thoughts:

It was inconsiderate. I personally thought the gift was creative and I would have LOVE to have something like that at my wedding, regardless of the monetary value. For the brides to lash back at the gifters was thoughtless. I don't expect any wedding to be a form of "money making for future expense," but if you're going to hold a wedding for that purpose, then at least let your guest know up front what you want as a gift so that you won't be disappointed. That way, your guest have the option of going or not going.

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touchofgr3y

From: touchofgr3y
Date: Jun. 29th, 2013 08:39 pm (UTC)
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No way around it - the bride is a complete bitch. While it probably wasn't the best choice of a wedding gift (I always give cash myself), some people are just going to be like that, I think. I haven't been married myself, but I'm sure at every wedding there's going to be a guest or two that gives way more than you ever expected them to and a guest or two that leaves you a little disappointed.

It's beyond rude to confront someone like that and to demand a receipt. I can't imagine ever doing that! It's just common decency; I get gifts all the time that leave me to think "WHAT could have possibly made you think of me when you chose this?" but you just never say that out loud! I try to give thoughtful gifts to people, but I'd be gutted if someone indicated they didn't like their gift.

Either way, I'm glad neither one of them are my friends ;)

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jul. 1st, 2013 04:01 am (UTC)
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Glad you feel the same way. That's what I was thinking too. Me, personally, I tend to stick with gift cards, that way the person I am giving it to, can use it in anyway they feel best fit.

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Sarah

From: lerabollera
Date: Jun. 29th, 2013 09:19 pm (UTC)
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Those brides are bang out of order! How rude!!

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jul. 1st, 2013 04:01 am (UTC)
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I agree... That was really awful of them as well.

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porcelain ocean

From: porcelain_ocean
Date: Jun. 30th, 2013 04:27 am (UTC)
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a) it's hella rude to demand receipts or better gifts. Gifts are nice but are not to be expected or demanded, moreso in today's day and age than ever before. Most couples have been living together for some time and probably have most of what they already need, whatever they don't have they can make a registry for and have gifts in all price ranges.
b) weddings have nothing to do with setting the new couple up for the future, or a money making event, it's supposed to be celebrating their love and connection. This is why couples who talk about going into debt to pay for the wedding with the expectation of getting all of that money back is ridiculous.
c) if the invitees are not worth the $100 or whatever they spent for dinner, then they should not have been invited in the first place. I don't understand people who invite 300 people to their wedding, who wants to pay for strangers food/entertainment? When did weddings become this massive competition where we're trying to outdo the Jones' again? For the love of god no wedding is unique, brides are not the delicate snowflakes they think they are, and it's one day rather than the rest of their lives (supposedly, we all know how the divorce rate is going).
d) the guy was rude, and it was a little bizarre to get food for a coworker, but the accusing, demanding, and downright derogatory way in which the brides get all up in themselves is ridiculous, they should be ashamed.

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jul. 1st, 2013 04:02 am (UTC)
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Exactly! You wrote exactly what I was thinking, thanks.

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princess_ailina

From: princess_ailina
Date: Jun. 30th, 2013 04:37 am (UTC)
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Those brides need to be smacked upside the head. They should have said thank you and just re-gifted whatever the one who has to eat gluten-free couldn't eat. Maybe donate it to a food shelf? I thought it was a clever gift and if I ever get married, I'd love to receive something like that!

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hisensei808

From: hisensei808
Date: Jul. 1st, 2013 04:03 am (UTC)
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That's exactly how I felt. The time it took to create and make it is worth more than money can buy. I personally felt it was inconsiderate of the brides to state what they did. Ugh.

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